I think that regarding kids, there are basically three stands you can take. Let me know if I'm leaving something out. As I see it, you can believe:
1. That nobody should have kids.
I actually find this to be a pretty reasonable point of view. Objectively, it's hard to argue that having kids is a great idea. The planet is crazy crowded, we here in the first world are using stuff about a zillion times as fast as other folks, global warming, etc. etc. Obviously I had one anyway, but if you want to take the stand that giving birth was where I went wrong, I sort of feel you.
2. That only the very wealthy should have kids.
I'm sorry, but if you believe this, you are an asshat. Please reassess your life and views.
3. That having kids is allowed, even for regular people.
If you believe #3, then I think you also have to agree that we regular people should be able to get our kids to and from daycare. Right?
The latest in a long string of insults from the workplace is that starting soon, everyone will have to work until 6 p.m., at the earliest. Like most Seattle daycares that I know of, Soren's closes at 5:30. Also, he is a baby, so he is sound asleep by 6:30 every night. I am lucky lucky that I'm not a single parent, and right now Mr. A's schedule allows him to leave downtown really early so that he can pick our kid up before daycare starts charging $5 a minute. But under this new plan I won't see Soren before he goes to sleep five nights a week. It's kind of breaking my heart.
Being a working parent has been hard. I miss having days off with Mr. A, and it sucks that Soren has hardly any time awake when his parents are both around. But up til now I have felt like my head was more or less above water. I have told myself that Tim Gunn would be proud of me for Making It Work. But only seeing my baby for a few minutes every morning, most days . . . that doesn't feel like success.